Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Insurance vs. Assurance

I am sure I am not the only one has typed out a post complaining about the headaches of insurance. On Friday my Mom received a call from her OT Therapist that she no longer is allowed to come out to the house for therapy. It has been close to six months and therefore insurance no longer will cover in home therapy. I guess in six months my mom should be able to drive herself to outpatient therapy?

Not quite...

It then makes you question the role of insurance. What if you had the assurance that no matter what medical expenses you encountered it would be covered? That you didn't have to worry about finding a loophole or convincing someone you deserved the needed medical services...that it would be covered no questions asked.

Thank goodness our salvation is not like insurance but rather is assurance. That no matter what you do, or don't do, no matter what your "pre-existing" conditions are, Christ's blood is your payment into eternity. He has already paid all the cost for you and you luckily have the assurance that you are now allowed to live an abundant life beyond the grave.

I know we were at a loss and a bit discouraged on Friday when we heard the insurance news and weren't quite sure as to what the next steps were to take in this recovery process. Well the body of Christ has once again stepped up to the plate and blown me away by their humility, gentleness and patience with my family. Members of my parent's Sunday school class said they will help take my Mom to and from her house to therapy during the week. We didn't even have to really spend time worrying about this issue. We had assurance that we were taken care of despite what our insurance company was telling us.

Like a good neighbor...You're in good hands...slogans for insurance companies and yet these can also be slogans for the body of Christ I am so unworthy to be a part of. When I went home at Easter, my parent's pastor preached about how he wanted First Baptist of Covington to be a church people knew about because of the actions of the congregation.

Well I am one grateful daughter in Birmingham, AL that surely knows about this church. I have been amazed time and time again at the outreach to my parents. My parents had only been going to FBC for about 10 months before the accident happened and it was if we, as a family, had been there for our whole lives the way we have been treated. Food, phone calls, errands, more food, cards, even more food and now someone offering to take my Mom to therapy.

What a beautiful picture of the church. Paul talked about just this in Eph 4:1-6
Ephesians 4:1-6 (New International Version)

Ephesians 4
Unity in the Body of Christ
1As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to one hope when you were called— 5one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

I think our assurance is found in the last part of verse six-who is over all and through all and in all. God is never out of the loop, He is always in control.

I am so honored to share the same God, Lord and faith with the members of FBC and how they have reached out and loved on us and carried the Adams family's burdens. I am humbled at their gentleness and patience and motivated and inspired by the love they have shown us to continue to spread that unity among my own family of faith locally.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Sunshower


So as I have posted before my life seems to mirror the weather. We have had a sudden patch of storms roll through Birmingham lately. The weeks will be day after day of sunshine and then our weekends are rainy and dreary. This past Friday I experienced both-I was driving in bright sunlight and it was raining, almost pouring with not a cloud in sight.

I feel like the past few weeks I haven’t felt the urge to post much. Of course if anything is happening with my parents progress I want to post and tell you all about it but the fountain of what God was teaching me hasn’t felt to be overflowing quite like it was around 5 months ago when this crisis struck.

Maybe nothing is going on? Maybe God isn’t teaching me anything? Maybe this is the end of the blog until Mom is fully restored. No, not quite. Everything is going on, God is constantly teaching me things and I feel like I was called to continue this blog for reasons unbeknownst to me.

I think what’s going on here is that my spiritual life is experiencing a bit of a sunshower. Have you ever been in a sunshower? That’s where I feel like I am right now. Around me good things are happening. I still have my job in an economic crisis, my parents are healing, my friends are supportive and I have a great relationship with Blake that is headed in a wonderful direction…BUT I am not happy. I say happy as opposed to joyful-I’ll get to that later.

I just feel like even though I am covered over in good things it’s rainy inside. I couldn’t place my finger on it. Was something wrong at work, was I mad at a friend, am I still dealing with the post-traumatic stress of my parent’s accident? No, quite frankly, I wasn’t in the word. I wasn’t reading God’s word daily. I wasn’t relying on his strength to pull me through each day-sunny or rainy.

It finally hit me that despite my sunshower God is still present in my life and can offer me an eternal joy. I can be joyful even if internally I feel a bit down or dreary. As a matter of fact, often times the best part of a sunshower is that a rainbow will appear. That joy will spring out of your passing shower. That a promise offered by God that he will never leave us or forsake us is written in the sky.

Genesis 9:12-15 (New International Version)
12 And God said, "This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: 13 I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. 14 Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. Never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life.

Friday, May 8, 2009

Prayer Request

Quick prayer request. My mom fell yesterday at the house. She stood up too quickly and because of the neck surgery she sometimes get lightheaded. Needless to say, she became very dizzy and felt like she was about to faint and started to fall backwards. She ended up falling on her bottom and her left side of her shoulder and head. She is okay but I think it scared her and shook her up a good bit. She was by herself so it was a little harder to also get back on two feet once she went down.

Please pray that there was no damage done to the c3-c6 area of her neck where the operation took place. Pray that her left arm did not have any set backs and that she will wake up today with the same range of motion she had yesterday. Pray that she will not be in a lot of pain from the actual impact to the rest of her body. Please also pray for safety when she is by herself at the house.

Thank you for your prayers and thoughts!

Psalm 118:13-14 (New International Version)

13 I was pushed back and about to fall,
but the LORD helped me.

14 The LORD is my strength and my song;
he has become my salvation.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Happy Mother's Day

So if my Mom reads this before Mother's Day then she will be surprised because this blog entry is all about her today. I wanted to get her a special gift this year. I always try to get a gift that I know she will love but this year is more special of course simply because despite her pain and trauma these past 5 months she has still been my Mom. I decided to buy her a Willow Tree figurine. Mom has several already but when I saw this I knew right away it was made just for my Mom. Her name is Courage- and her tag line reads:Bringing a triumphant spirit, inspiration and courage.

That is my Mom!



They look a like I think. Maybe not right now but someday soon Mom will stand with both arms outstretched and overhead triumphantly towards our Maker praising him for total restoration. She has definitely been an inspiration to me and shown such courage through this whole ordeal.

Maybe she was in a morphine induced haze but I remember clearly some of the things she told me when she was in the NCCU back in December. I was just sobbing away because I knew I had to leave and drive back to Birmingham that night and she said, "I know it looks bad. Don't cry. I'll be okay." It was so motherly. Here she was on a bed unable to move her arms and neck hooked up to many machines and had morphine pumping through her veins to control the pain and she said the same things she said to me as a little girl, " I know your scraped knee looks bad. Don't cry. You'll be okay."

Even now when she is at home by herself all day still in pain or restrained because of her limited mobility she still listens to me. I remember calling her about a month and half ago when I felt really sick and all I could do was cry and she listened and said, "I know you feel bad. It's okay to cry and let it out but you'll get better." I couldn't believe she was the one telling me I'd be okay. She still couldn't move her left arm and had a cast on her right arm and she wasn't complaining. No she simply empathized with the pain and nurtured me as if I were 5 years old again and figuratively lifted me up in her arms over the phone.

My Mom is a strong woman. I forget this sometimes but then I think about all she has already been through before this accident. All the surgeries for her neck and jaw, all the pain with other physical ailments and emotional heartache and here she is with yet another obstacle. Only a few times has she broken down and cried because of the pain or discomfort. Only a few times has she said she was tired of being sick or at stuck at home. But more often than not when I call her everyday after work she is happy and her bubbly self. Full of life and energy and pleased to be talking to her little girl. She is definitely one of the strongest women I know.

I love you Mom! Happy Mother's Day

Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9